“Walking that fine line between making it happen and letting it happen”
Hello! My name is Carla Da Costa and I am the coach, author and creative behind Living With Heart Co. I live in Perth, Western Australia with my two daughters and am the author of an award winning collection of books the Living With Heart series. The books are much loved guides supporting women to create and live their best life possible from the inside out and were awarded life coaching book/product of the year for 2017/2018.
I was inspired to do this work after rediscovering me. It’s a cliché I know to lose your self, but after having had children and feeling dissatisfied within myself and my marriage, I did!
Rediscovering what I wanted and needed for myself, not just as a Mum but as a woman has literally freed me to gladly be me again. The girl, the woman I always was before life and “adulting” got in the way. Who took things seriously but didn’t take herself so seriously. It has been a rewarding, challenging, soul lifting and life changing experience and I now feel more myself, more comfortable in my own skin and more confident with what I have to offer others than I have ever done before.
Pilates, music, travel, sunshine and my family lift my spirits. I’m really into having a close, tight circle of friends. I’m certainly loyal, my close people don’t chop and change. I love and am drawn to down to earth, genuine souls from all walks of life. I’m not judgey. I’m forgiving to a fault. I have an easy laugh- including at myself. I am open but value my own privacy. Most definetly I’m a big-hearted, open hearted and a wear my smile on my sleeve kind of girl. And I don’t change- I am the same person with everyone I meet.
I’ve been single, married and divorced. I’ve dated. I’ve taken time away from dating to learn to be comfortable with me. I have experienced depression, anorexia and obsessive compulsive disorder. I spent six months of my early adolescent life in an adult psychiatric hospital recovering from the above three and thankfully have stayed recovered for over twenty years. If there is a defintion of what living in your head over you heart looks like when it goes completely wrong, that experience would be it.
My vision of living with heart and being my best self evolves continually as I do. I used to think I needed to always make it happen in life but I’ve come to realise the importance of accepting and having peace with the flow of where I am and what I’m doing.
I do the self-loving work on me, to bring out the best in me and I force nothing outside of myself. I’m always motivated. I’ll always believe in putting my best foot forward but now I equally embrace my femininity, my needs, my desires, my intuition and my softer intimate side. And I know that when I do that, what is right for me presents itself when it’s meant to. There’s no make it happen anymore, I let it happen.
My desire is to see women glowing from the inside out and embracing life to the fullest. I’m passionate about women being at their best from the inside out and living a life that embraces us for who we are, before we are anything else to anyone else; a woman.
I know I’m a better everything – lover, Mother, friend, daughter, when I prioritise myself as a woman first.
There are practices that keep you healthy, radiant, positive and glowing from the inside out and I am hugely passionate about them. Exercise, being outdoors, laughter, time with my girlfriends, fresh food, meditation or quiet time, open heartedness and a willingness to grow, love, make mistakes sometimes and learn fast are mine. Follow me here long enough and you’ll hear about them all!